Lately, I’ve felt a niggle inside. At first, it was a little niggle, but over the past two weeks it seems to be growing by the day. What is this niggle? Call it intuition, call it mental illness, but I “feel” CHANGE is in the air.

Now, I will concede that with my 36th birthday on my door step, this change could be due to one of those life freak-outs where you grab your cheeks (a la Macauley Culkin), evaluate your choices to date and question whether your life is going in the right direction.

I’ve felt this way ever since I returned from Thailand. Firstly, I haven’t been so relaxed in years, and secondly, it was so nice to be out there LIVING, instead of sitting here at a computer copy writing for clients, researching, writing blog posts and working on my novel. And herein lies my problem. My life has no balance; I am chained to this key board. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love writing. I HAVE TO COMMUNICATE. However, it strikes me that the less you get out there and live, the less you have to say.

Roseanne Cash said “The key to change … is to let go of fear”. The assumption being that CHANGE is rarely comfortable. This is a biggie for me, and probably for many of you. How often do we stay in an unsavory situation simply because we can’t see any way forward? Or, we can, but we wouldn’t want to take it. It’s just too scary.

I’ve known people happy to bitch about their job for years, rather than actually hunt for a new one. And that’s a job. Imagine what these people are like when it comes to their relationships! We’ve all heard about women who stay with their partners even though they are physically and emotionally abused. People who haven’t experienced this situation cannot fathom why this would be, but I can say from personal experience that in many cases it goes back to the reasons why people hesitate to change any area of their life. The fear of the unknown is far greater than the pain of the now.

The question is, how do we get around this? What if we don’t want to be scared anymore? If we don’t want to take it?

The answer is not a simple one, and no one solution fits everybody. I prefer to face my fears head on and come out fists flying (so to speak), but others like to duck and weave, evade their opponent Mr Fear and hope they can get out of the ring without him noticing. The one thing I do know is you must decide that you want to change. Then open your arms up and ask for help. Ask God or the universe or even your higher self, whatever works for you, but ask for help. Say, I want something better than this. Show me the way. Then get out of the way and look out for what comes by. You just might be surprised.

I have many questions in this life, and not all the answers. Hoping some of you may be able to share your wisdom for navigating the sea of life change. I’ll be here at my keyboard waiting…

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