Have you ever done something bold? Something exhilarating, terrifying. Something that required a courage and a determination you never dreamed possible? Maybe it was parachuting, or starting a new business, or getting married to someone you met a month ago. It doesn’t matter whether anyone else would think it’s daring, it’s only important that it was challenging for you.
In celebration of the weekend barreling towards us, I have decided to follow Kailani’s Aloha Friday philosophy (check out An Island Life) and throw a BIG question out to you, my dear readers.
What is the Most Daring Thing You Have Ever Done?
For me, it would have to be my solo backpacking trip to Mexico and Guatemala in 2002. Five months away from my husband, alone in a undeveloped part of the world with basic Spanish and a pack for company.
This trip was truly the making of me as an individual, and while it was very difficult to leave my husband of four years (he didn’t want to go), I knew in my heart that you can’t put your life and your dreams on hold to stand beside someone else while they live theirs.
My husband was passionate about his business, and I had changed careers from Marketing to English Language Teaching in order to pursue my passion for travel. Of course we always thought our dreams would somehow coincide, but at this time it just wasn’t happening. We weren’t ready to buy a home or have a family, and our goals were taking us in opposite directions with a slowly winding path to divorce.
The fact that we are still in love and together six years later, with a son and our own home, is thanks in large part to me taking the reins of my own life. By eschewing the doomsdayers, by being true to myself and pushing through my fears, I had an opportunity to take myself out of my world, to see who I was when there was no one to advise me and back me up.
What I found was a strength and a confidence that I never knew existed. I met new people, had amazing experiences, suffered terrifying ordeals (robbed at gunpoint) and through it all I not only carried on, I thrived. The woman my husband welcomed home five months later had a maturity that never would have existed if I had not dared to take a chance on myself.
Strip everything away and all you have is yourself. I have done this and I can honestly say I am proud of the woman that stares back at me from the mirror. She’s a little nuts, not so predictable, but she has guts and she’s alright.
So dear reader, has any one event been the making of you?
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