Today is a great day for me because Zen Habits has published an article I wrote called The User’s Guide to Fabulous Friendships.I’m a big fan of Leo’s and am quite chuffed he asked me to guest post. Zen Habits not only has great articles, it has a very involved community of readers and there’s always interesting discussions going on. Hopefully, I can help contribute to that with this article, so why not go over and check out The User’s Guide to Fabulous Friendships.
I’d also like to add a personal note that this article truly comes from my heart and is dedicated to all the wonderful women I call friends. Some of you have been with me a very long time and have helped pick me up when I was broken and down. I thank you for your undying love and support, and please know that my life is brighter and bigger for your presence in it.
Kelly
PS. And thank you to all my online friends and readers who have sent their well wishes as I have slogged through two weeks of ill health. I’m on the mend and I appreciate you thinking of me.
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glad to know you are better now!
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i have just read your article. it’s great! i find them so true and very relevant.
finding time err. making time i think is the most difficult, but must be worked on.
thank you for sharing!
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Hi Kelly, I came to your site from your post on Zen. Relationships of any type need love and attention and you do have to make time to do this. I had two great sessions with different sets of friends last week and they completely invigorated me. Great post.
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Congratulation! That’s a really beautiful and heart-felt post. I loved your snappy title - perfect!
You must be enjoying streams of new readers. ( I know that because quite a few are linking through to GoodlifeZen).
This guest post is a real achievement. Don’t forget to celebrate, Kelly!
a wave ~
Mary
PS: Glad you feel better
I also came here through Zen. What an awesome article, thank you! I am subscribing to your feed right now!
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OH I love Zen Habits. Glad you’re recovering!
I particularly love this post because that’s my resolution - to keep in touch with friendships. Although it’s tough when they’re not reciprocating…
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Thanks for the well wishes and congratulations, Mary and Charlotte.
Mary, I hope you can pick up some subscribers too.
Curiosity Killer, thanks for your recent comments. Glad you liked the post. It is hard when friends are not doing their bit, and I guess you just have to do what you can do. I’m the caller in a few of my friendships, but that’s just because my those women are lousy with phone calls. We both know it so it doesn’t matter. It’s not personal.
Workout Mommy and PlanningQueen, welcome to SHE-POWER. Glad you liked the post. Hope you’ll come back
Friendships are one of the most precious things in life. I’m going to check out that article. Thank you for the link.
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What a wonderful blog… anxious to read further…found you through Zen Habits.
I just read this through Zen and now have your blog bookmarked for future inspiration. This is something that has been on my mind a lot lately, and it was spawned by an article in the times about it being OK to close a few doors in life. http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/26/science/26tier.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=closing+doors&st=nyt&oref=slogin. This article is not specifically about friendships, but that’s what I personally related it to. And I have not gone and dumped a bunch of my friends because of this- I have re-examined my friendships and am now feeling the positive effects of growing relationships and have let go of the bad feelings I have for those friendships that have fizzled out over the years. I’ve accepted and moved on. I’m glad to see I’m not the only person pondering these thoughts….must be a collective consciousness thing! I look forward to reading more lovely posts of yours.
What a wonderful article. I shared it with a lot of my “fabulous” friends from over the years. Thank you for putting it all in those beautiful words.
Congrats, it’s a great article
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Welcome to the SHE-POWER community, Kay, Alexandra and Jennifer. I’m thrilled you liked the post. My friends are such an important part of my life, this article really meant something to me.
Cat and Kailani, thanks for your support.
Great post! It really spoke to me about something that I’ve been feeling guilty and bad about and that there must be something wrong with me that I don’t have the number/quality of friends I used to before I was a mom/wife/full time product manager.
If you are interested in a follow up topic… how about some practical tips on how to implement your tip about prioritizing the relationships and getting rid of the friends you really aren’t interested in keeping? This is something I struggle with a bit… It seems like when you’re in your ’30s there is an inevitable paradox - your friends who have it together don’t have time for friends, and those who don’t just seem to be more into free therapy sessions than actually being fun. I don’t have the heart to be direct and say something like “look I just don’t want to be friends”… and yet you are totally right. Life is too short to waste precious available socializing hours on people who make you feel like the world might as well just end tomorrow.
I thought I recognized the name!! Since you’re new to me through the Blog Party, I just wasn’t so sure it was you. Congrats!!
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