“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”
- Robert Brault, Author
But how much do you actually APPLY this knowledge in your life?
If you’re like me, you’re always moving forward, assessing how far you’ve come, planning your next move, and caught in an endless spin cycle of act/think/worry. You know it’s no way to live - this frenzied movement of mind and body - but you persist anyway.
What I am saying is not ground breaking. Eckhart Tolle famously calls it The Power of Now, However, in an over-stimulated world, where there is so much competing for our attention and our energy, it is a message that deserves repeating.
The details of life are where the magic lies
So often we get caught up in work - putting in the extra hours, pitching for that promotion, worrying about deadlines, office politics or how to get more clients. The hours get sucked away. Finally, we switch that channel off, only to start thinking about our goals or personal dramas.
I know I’m not alone in saying I want to do a lot with my life. I think I already have. But there is much more I would like to achieve and experience, and sometimes I get caught up in that wanting and planning and the need to “make it happen”. So much so that I lose all sense of time and perspective.
Add to that my always thinking, plotting writer’s mind, and it’s fair to say most days pink elephants could tango across my lawn and I really wouldn’t notice.
The Sleepwalking Parent
The problem is compounded when you’re a parent. Now, you are not the only person to miss out if you speed through life, ticking off goals, pushing forward, stuck on yourself and your ambitions.
Your children pay the price - sitting on the sidelines, waiting for you to notice them. Ever hopeful that you’ll slow down and give them your undivided attention.
I would like to say I am not guilty of taking my son’s love and youthful exuberance for granted, but that would be a lie. What I can say is I am much better at being present in my life than I’ve ever been.
I still hope to be a best selling author one day. I hope to travel to the far reaches of the world and own a holiday house in my beloved Mexico. But I also know none of these goals will matter if Bunny and MusicMan are not there to share them.
If I sleep walk through my son’s childhood - not seeing him grow and change, not creating memories to shape his life - there will be no achievements to fill that void. I’ll have failed at the one thing that really counted.
So, as hard as I may find it now, I’ll persevere with learning to stay in the moment. When this is my reward, how can I not?
Do you truly live in the everyday beauty of your life?
Are there any techniques you’d like to share that help you stay focused on the moment and the little things, so they don’t pass you by?
Flickr Photo by Lille Abe